Stay-at-Home Mom Bills Husband $2.7K A Week
Jul 21 | 2025
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A stay-at-home mom recently pulled back the curtain on the real value of full-time domestic labor. In a TikTok video that’s now seen by over 4 million viewers, Amber Audrey outlines a weekly “invoice” to her husband totaling $2,700. This is a real tongue-in-cheek reckoning that’s sparked both cheers and jeers online.
Her listing breaks down like this:
- $20 per dish load (2–3 daily): ~$300/week
- $35 per laundry load (4× weekly): $140
- $60 per bathroom clean, twice weekly: $240
- $100 per full-floor clean, twice or more weekly: $300
- Homeschooling tuition: $400 per child × 2 = $800
- Kid shuttle service: $50/trip (gymnastics, sports, etc.): $150
- Grocery shopping fee: $75
- Personal chef (lunch + dinner): $50/meal × 10 = $500
- Breastfeeding support: $200
- Daily sweep-up: $10/day × 5 = $50
That adds up to $2,700 a week, which works out to roughly $140,000 per year. While that may seem pretty steep to you, others say Amber’s undercharging.
What’s Up With Amber?
Did she hand her husband an actual bill? Not really. She told People that the idea was “a complete joke” — but one with a serious point: just because you don’t have a paycheck doesn’t mean your work has no value. As she put it:
“Just because you’re not bringing home a paycheck … doesn’t mean you’re not providing valuable work to your household.”
She also opened up about the mental load — how being a full-time caregiver stretches into your wellbeing and even your sense of identity — especially in those postpartum months (which, according to her, can last years, not just weeks).
And socials went crazy:
- Supporters highlight that if she outsourced these tasks — chef, teacher, housecleaner, nanny, driver — they’d easily cost as much (or more).
- Critics say it feels transactional and one-sided — mixing “us vs. me” energy into what’s supposed to be a partnership.
- Some argue she’s downplaying her worth, saying with her workload, she should be charging much more.
One commenter noted in The Sun: “If y’all weren’t together he’d be paying wayyy more in child support!” Another said: “Being a SAHM is a job in itself … we don’t clock out or get weekends.”
What the Research Says
Economists and sociologists have long studied the “value” of unpaid caregiving. A 2024 report placed the annual worth of a stay-at-home mom’s work at roughly $140,315 — nearly identical to the TikToker’s yearly total. The lack of transparency about domestic labor is a real issue: it’s essential, time-consuming, emotionally taxing — and undervalued compared to jobs that come with a paycheck.
- Shining a Light on Hidden Labor
The video put household work on the table. It’s not about resentment — it’s about recognition. Tasks like meal prep, organizing, caregiving, and cleaning are emotionally and physically draining. - Reframing Roles in Partnerships
It encourages conversations around equity: who is doing the labor and how is it valued? Even in dual-income households, the unseen load generally falls on the mother. - Starting Tough Talks
It opens up the space for parents to say, “Hey — I’m stretched too thin.” It’s not just domestic work; it’s the mental load, the emotional labor, the planning, the handling of family crises, the 3 AM wake-ups, of being “on call” every moment of the day.
Give A Mom A Break
It’s easy to dismiss this as attention-seeking. But millions of us — stay-at-home parents, part-time caregivers, those who juggle household work alongside other jobs — feel that sting: I’m exhausted, I’m overwhelmed, and it doesn’t matter to anyone else.
This isn’t about billing your partner for chores. It’s about:
- Feeling seen for the unending effort
- Asking: Who picks up the slack? Who recognizes the effort?
- Maybe saying: “I’m doing the work that would cost us X — can we talk about how we might share all of this?”
At the End of the Day
This TikTok “invoice” doesn’t mean she’s setting up a business. It’s a metaphor — a loud, cheeky wake-up call about who does the unglamorous, unpaid work inside a family. And it’s okay to say:
“This is real labor. It matters. I matter.”
Touché, Amber.
- $20 per dish load (2–3 daily): ~$300/week
- $35 per laundry load (4× weekly): $140
- $60 per bathroom clean, twice weekly: $240
- $100 per full-floor clean, twice or more weekly: $300
- Homeschooling tuition: $400 per child × 2 = $800
- Kid shuttle service: $50/trip (gymnastics, sports, etc.): $150
- Grocery shopping fee: $75
- Personal chef (lunch + dinner): $50/meal × 10 = $500
- Breastfeeding support: $200
- Daily sweep-up: $10/day × 5 = $50
That adds up to $2,700 a week, which works out to roughly $140,000 per year. While that may seem pretty steep to you, others say Amber’s undercharging.
What’s Up With Amber?
Did she hand her husband an actual bill? Not really. She told People that the idea was “a complete joke” — but one with a serious point: just because you don’t have a paycheck doesn’t mean your work has no value. As she put it:
“Just because you're not bringing home a paycheck … doesn't mean you're not providing valuable work to your household.”
She also opened up about the mental load — how being a full-time caregiver stretches into your wellbeing and even your sense of identity — especially in those postpartum months (which, according to her, can last years, not just weeks).
And socials went crazy:
- Supporters highlight that if she outsourced these tasks — chef, teacher, housecleaner, nanny, driver — they'd easily cost as much (or more).
- Critics say it feels transactional and one-sided — mixing “us vs. me” energy into what's supposed to be a partnership.
- Some argue she’s downplaying her worth, saying with her workload, she should be charging much more.
One commenter noted in The Sun: “If y’all weren’t together he’d be paying wayyy more in child support!” Another said: “Being a SAHM is a job in itself … we don’t clock out or get weekends.”
What the Research Says
Economists and sociologists have long studied the "value" of unpaid caregiving. A 2024 report placed the annual worth of a stay-at-home mom’s work at roughly $140,315 — nearly identical to the TikToker’s yearly total. The lack of transparency about domestic labor is a real issue: it’s essential, time-consuming, emotionally taxing — and undervalued compared to jobs that come with a paycheck.
- Shining a Light on Hidden Labor
The video put household work on the table. It’s not about resentment — it's about recognition. Tasks like meal prep, organizing, caregiving, and cleaning are emotionally and physically draining. - Reframing Roles in Partnerships
It encourages conversations around equity: who is doing the labor and how is it valued? Even in dual-income households, the unseen load generally falls on the mother. - Starting Tough Talks
It opens up the space for parents to say, “Hey — I’m stretched too thin.” It’s not just domestic work; it's the mental load, the emotional labor, the planning, the handling of family crises, the 3 AM wake-ups, of being “on call” every moment of the day.
Give A Mom A Break
It’s easy to dismiss this as attention-seeking. But millions of us — stay-at-home parents, part-time caregivers, those who juggle household work alongside other jobs — feel that sting: I’m exhausted, I’m overwhelmed, and it doesn’t matter to anyone else.
This isn’t about billing your partner for chores. It’s about:
- Feeling seen for the unending effort
- Asking: Who picks up the slack? Who recognizes the effort?
- Maybe saying: “I’m doing the work that would cost us X — can we talk about how we might share all of this?”
At the End of the Day
This TikTok “invoice” doesn’t mean she’s setting up a business. It’s a metaphor — a loud, cheeky wake-up call about who does the unglamorous, unpaid work inside a family. And it’s okay to say:
“This is real labor. It matters. I matter.”
Touché, Amber.
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