3 Techniques to Increase Your Confidence at Work
Whether you are new on the job, feeling pressure to perform, finding yourself messing up more than usual, or you're just not on your "A" game, confidence can take a nose dive. Your boss may be questioning your abilities, co-workers seem to be thriving while you're floundering, and you just can't get it together. It's no wonder your faith in yourself isn't as stellar as it ought to be.
But you can't wait for others to build you up, nor will there be some magical moment when suddenly your ego explodes. You need to boost your own confidence, get back your "mojo" (or get your first taste of some), and show yourself and those you work with that you've got what it takes to succeed.
Put Forth Your Best Self
Your inner strength is what will push you through hard times and hurdles, but if you look good, you'll feel good. And that will give you the courage and sureness to shine. This isn't about beauty or showing off; it's an outward reflection of what type of person you are, what you seek to achieve, and how you choose to present yourself.
As per The Muse, "Dressing well, having good posture, being friendly, and making eye contact with people will all give the impression that you're confident and in control. And when the rest of the world thinks you're self-assured, you'll start believing it, too."
Inc. adds, "How you move around in the office can determine your mood. Add a little zing and energy, and you can gain more confidence when people notice you have the pep. Confidence is reflected."
Put your best foot forward and "best" is the direction you'll go!
Change Your Mindset
Negative self-talk and debilitating doubt will stall you on your journey towards reaching the top. Confidence starts from within, so berating yourself will only keep you down. Remind yourself daily that you are a hard worker, a smart person, and someone who has it inside themselves to reach any goal set forth.
Huffington Post suggests investing in your mind. "Focus on speaking positive affirmations to yourself daily, meditate on the right things, keep upgrading your inspiration and motivational content and ensure that your mind is consistently fixed on the right things."
AsEntrepreneurputs it, "Fake it 'till you make it. You are more competent than you know. So, act like you know it all!"
One way to do this is to "trumpet your own success," as per Inc. For instance, "You can build your own confidence by pointing out, in a matter-of-fact way, that you were the one who accomplished something for the company. It makes you more confident because you get into the habit of self-rewards and self-acknowledgement."
It's not gloating when it's genuine.
Don't Be Afraid to Ask Questions
Ask and you shall receive… and eventually, you shall achieve! If you don't quite grasp a concept brought up in a meeting or need clarification on an email or presentation, ask! Staying silent and in a state of confusion will only dampen your confidence. When you are in-the-know and well-educated, you will perform at your best.
As The Muse notes, "Remember that (no matter what stage you're at in your career) you're never going to have all the answers. So, don't be shy about asking questions, especially when you're feeling uncertain or insecure. Instead, arm yourself with the information you need to do your job well by asking for it."
Asking questions will not only help you grow, but will show that you are invested in the company and care about making a difference. Hooking up with a mentor is another smart strategy to get ahead and help you feel more confident in your abilities. And when you get to a point of achievement, pay it forward.
Confidence starts now! Boost your way to a breakthrough!
Every time payday rolls around, I’m on top of the world. Jeff Bezos-level rich - even though I’m anything but. And then somehow the very next day, rent is due.
The cycle continues. The next payday, bills for my apartment. I find myself without a surplus of savings since I just moved and newly-furnished my apartment completely.
Even more terrifying is the looming presence of the holiday season. Halloween’s officially over and before we know it, hello Thanksgiving…and then there’s Hanukkah, Christmas, New Year’s. It’s insane.
I’ve been feeling very British lately. Not in a Union-Jack-obsessed, “Keep Calm and Carry-On” way. I went through that phase in 2012 with everyone else… no thank you. And it’s not even a surge of patriotism catalyzed by the Queen dying — I’m firmly team Diana and team Meghan.
Now that fall is officially here, the holidays will sweep in and I’ll have to contend with the fact that I won’t be spending them with my family in the UK. I went home to London earlier this year, so there’s not much left in my travel budget for another trip across the pond. A few domestic jaunts might be in my future, but the closest I’ll get to England this winter is watching Love Island and Love, Actually.
So in that spirit, I’ve been filling my days with content from my favorite Brits. I’m listening to all the old British rock bands I grew up listening to, patiently awaiting the new Arctic Monkeys album, and rewatching anything with Michaela Coel in it. I even shipped myself an order of British Baked Beans, so you know it’s dire.
I’ve also been watching British YouTubers like Grace Beverley — my favorite. Generally, I only go on YouTube to watch Vogue Beauty Secrets and AD Open Door videos. But I’m so glad I stumbled on Grace. Her content is a mix of London lifestyle (what lured me in), relatable entrepreneurship, and mindful productivity. I’m not a hustle-and-grind-girlboss, but as a creative person in a 9-to-5, I need all the help I can get to stay plugged in. So, the video “how to be really really really productive without getting overwhelmed” changed my approach to WFH.
Grace outlines her own productivity method: the to-do table. Instead of making a simple to-do list, she divides her tasks into a table that anyone can follow. As someone who’s survived with to-do lists for years, I recently implemented Grace’s method, and it’s revolutionized my workdays.
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I follow her routine to a tee. Here’s how it works:
Essentially, she divides her daily responsibilities into four categories: quick ticks, tasks, projects, and non-negotiables.
- Quick Ticks: Actions that take less than 5-minutes
- Tasks: To-do’s that take up to 30-minutes. Probably don’t take too much brain energy.
- Projects: Long-term list items. These help guide your priorities, even if you’re not crossing them off in one day.
- Non-negotiables: Pick 3 things each day that you must get done. This is how you’ll truly measure success.
With everything written down and sorted, next address your schedule. Meetings, deadlines, and time blocks — whatever works best for you. Write it down. Then make a pact with yourself to stick to them.
This way of categorization provides a roadmap for prioritizing your day — making you far more productive. Have you ever spent the entire day on small tasks and then suddenly realized you hadn’t moved the needle on any task? Or do you spend way too much time on tasks that aren’t a priority? No more. With your non-negotiables laid out, you know what to laser-focus on and what to dedicate energy towards.
Also, it pays to know your working style. I’m not a morning person. Yet, I have to be up and at ‘em super early. So, first thing in the morning, I march through my Quick Ticks to warm me up. I set a time limit, so I can knock out some easy wins which is totally inspiring. Then I move on to bigger things without lingering on emails or admin. For others, it might be more helpful to tackle the big things with all that early-in-the-day brain power earlier.
Grace has great tips on avoiding overwhelm and burnout. My favorite is taking more intentional breaks rather than scrolling through social media. I call this scrolling “productive” because I’m “coming up with pitches.” Oh, the lies we tell ourselves. It’s more productive in the long run to giving my brain a break with non-screen related stimuli.
Grace’s solution? Set a timer to read a real, an actual book. I’ve never thought of this. It’s a genius way to check off some books on my TBR and kickstart my creativity. After reading a good book, I’m completely inspired to write. So having books near my desk helps me step away from the computer during my lunch break for an actual reset. (And yes, the current books I’m reading are by British authors: Assembly by Natasha Brown, and Love in Color: Mythical Tales from Around the World, Retold by Bolu Babalolu.)
In my pursuit of switching out my WFH set-up and getting my life together, I’ve engineered my workstation for success. With my new WFH essentials and Grace’s productivity technique, I’m revitalized for work — despite the fall blues and my melancholy about the pending holidays.
Here are the things getting me hyped for work and helping me crush my Grace Beverley-inspired to-do tables — no lists in sight:
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Here’s the breakdown:
Where can you go?
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What do the fares cover?
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Do you have to be a Southwest Rapid Rewards member?
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I’ve been browsing the Southwest Airlines site, checking out flights and dreaming.